We are T-9 days until Christmas! With the start of a new job, I admittedly have not had as much time to think about homemade Christmas gifts or new Christmas decor. My house looks almost identical to last year. My presents are mostly being bought on Amazon. But in honor of counting down to Christmas, I will spend the rest of this week and the beginning of next week re-blogging a few of my favorite Christmas posts from past years. I hope you feel inspired, and enjoy!
Let me start by sharing this lovely gem with you…an all-girls-cheesy-staircase-ugly-sweater photo. Merry almost Christmas!!
When entering college, I received the following advice:
Use your Freshman year to join every possible organization you might be interested in. Then commit to only a few for the rest of college. That way, you can hold leadership positions by junior/senior year and have something for your resume.
Awesome, awesome, awesome advice, which served me very well. And now as I’m in my 29th year, nearing 30, I’m starting to reflect on the professional advice and lessons I’ve learned so far. And I’m realizing this:
Your twenties are the “freshman year” of your career. Do what you need to do to figure out which direction you want to go in.
I say this because I’ve just accepted a job offer – what will be my 5th job since graduating college. I know it sounds like a lot of jobs in 5 1/2 years, but it makes total sense when you look at my resume. Promise. My whole career has been in Higher Education Development (aka fundraising for universities), but I had no idea what I wanted to do when I graduated, so the first job I landed in was a little luck, and a little fate. Now, I love the field. To sum it up quickly for you:
Institution number one:
- 1 year and 5 months as an Administrative Assistant
- 1 year and 9 months as a Program Coordinator
- 1 year and 9 months as an Associate Director
Institution number two:
- 1 year and 7 months as an Associate Director
- About to embark on a new position as an actual DIRECTOR, which means I will be a boss for the first time as I work to build a program from the ground up. Very excited about this opportunity!!
As you can see, a slow but steady climb, NOT jumping institutions, but working my way up at one place, allowing me to learn a lot about my field. And along the way, I have also learned a lot about professionalism, bosses, strategy, and how to get ahead. Slow and steady, my friends! Slow. And. Steady.
So while I have very little authority to dole out a ton of advice, I’m just going to hit a few highlights that have served me well…
- Make your boss look good. I hated this advice the first time I heard it. I was way above that. But I learned how very true it is. I have been able to advance at a high rate, because my bosses have been my mentors, and when opportunities came along, they not only encouraged me but where often the ones to tell me an opening was around the corner. You work to make them look good. They work to make their bosses look good. It means you are doing your job well. I promise, this will serve you well in the end.
- Negotiate for a better salary every time you get a job offer. Especially us women. I’m not really a feminist, but it’s proven that there is a gender gap in wages (male engineers at Google make 20% more!). If you ask for even just a little bit more each time you start a new position, it only gives you more leverage for the next one. Asking for more money can be uncomfortable for some people, so be prepared to say why you are asking for more: you have a masters, you have to move, you are losing other perks by changing jobs, you have more experience than they asked for. Whatever it is, just be ready to tell them why you deserve it! They are prepared to offer more if they have to – I promise. And these days, it’s almost impossible to get a raise, so it’s best to negotiate during a job offer.
- Get a Masters Degree – but only if you want to. Don’t do it just because you feel like you should. I don’t know if you know this, but grad school is a lot of freaking work. Not only do you have to want a masters, but you have to be really really excited about whatever you choose to study. Or you will definitely fail.
- Don’t let them see you smile until Thanksgiving. Okay, I’ve really only heard this one for teachers, but it kind of applies to us non-educators, as well. I’m about to become a boss, so I’m thinking A LOT about how to go about it, and how to get started on the right foot. I’ve had bosses across the spectrum, but the biggest issue I’ve had with a few of them is coming in with one attitude, and then doing a 180 after a few weeks or months on the job. Better to come into your job being super professional, not overly jokey or silly or anything until you’ve really settled in. Take your time getting to know your fellow employees, just as you would getting to know ANYone you meet in your life.
- Avoid engaging in office drama and gossip. Obviously. And I admit, this is tough for me sometimes. But you might work for them someday. Or they might work for you. Plus it’s just mean, and as someone who has been on both sides of it, I highly recommend staying away.
Okay so that’s all I’ve got for now. I’ve you’ve read this far, congrats! You deserve a prize. Go get an extra coffee.
You know the whole “Don’t let good be the enemy of perfect” and all that? Well sometimes, I don’t post because I don’t feel like I have anything post-worthy. But sometimes it’s fun to just throw a smorgusbord at you all and give you an update on my life, just in case you care. And so, I give you, a few things that have been happening lately, in no particular order. Plus, I have all these pictures on my phone that would go otherwise unseen.
1. I made my puppy smile with a turkey pumpkin. It was cute, I swear.
2. My mom and my in-laws came to town for Thanksgiving. I did not take enough photos, but this t-shirt did happen.
3. My husband cut down our Christmas tree again this year at a tree farm in Granville, OH. There was less snow on the ground, but it was still a cold and sort of snotty experience. Last year’s tree was named Tenny. This year’s is Tenny II. We are creative like that.
4. We decorated Tenny II. I’m sure I will post yet another detailed blog entry about how much I love decorating Christmas trees, and how much each ornament means to me, so that’s something for you to look forward to. For now, you get these:
5. We made a gingerbread house from a kit. It was surprisingly fun for both of us.
6. I attended the fanciest work party I’ve ever experienced at a higher education institution. There was no booze, but there was hot chocolate with peanut butter whipped cream, and amazing 12-person band, and an indoor fake ice skating rink. Also, Archie Griffin seriously knows how to cut a rug.
I have one other piece of super fun news that I will announce tomorrow, but until then…what have you been up to lately?? Fill us in!
Apparently this has been around a while, but I’m a little late to the game.
I love watching the morning news. GMA is my show of choice, and I used to watch it religiously while working out and then while getting ready at home. Nowadays, I don’t get ready anywhere near a TV, so I totally miss out on this morning gem. Makes me sad. And also, makes me less informed.
But then recently, I discovered The Skimm!
Every weekday, they send an email to your inbox summing up the big need-to-know news stories across the world. Syria. Egypt. Ferguson. Oil. Black Friday. You name it.
Here is today’s Skimm if you want to check it out, and a screen shot from my inbox:
It’s FRIDAY! Happy Friday, friends. This morning, my husband shared this fabulous video with me from a recent Celtics game. Please enjoy.
I encourage you on this Friday to be as happy and free-spirited as this guy. I, for one, wish I lived life this way…
I have to admit, it’s really pretty. Come February, it will be black and gross and miserable. And this week has been pretty miserably cold, but of course that comes and goes. So for now, look at the pretty snow on my house and street!
Also, I am a strict “no Christmas decorations before Thanksgiving” person, so I refuse to take down my fall decorations until we get our tree the day after Christmas. This scarecrow is just going to have to deal with the cold like the rest of us!
In college, one of my main friend groups formed out of our campus’s Presbyterian Student Fellowship. I found this group early in my Freshman year, and I can’t begin to explain the life-long relationships I formed from it. So naturally, it’s pretty exciting when any of us have exciting life events, especially weddings when we all get to see each other!!
our PSF alumni!
This year has been THE YEAR of weddings. With nine invitations, we have very sadly not been able to afford to go to all of them. Seeing friends and celebrating new marriages are two of my favorite things in the whole world, and it makes me so sad to miss some of them. Because of this, I am also grateful to be present at the ones I’m able to be present at!
Love these ladies!
This weekend also had the added bonus of being in Nashville, which is always extra fun for the Hubster and me. Just love getting dressed up with this man! Hope you all had a great weekend too!
Me and my man!